5 Tips - How to Stay Calm Amidst Confrontation and Create A Peaceful Reality

What would you do if someone started yelling at you at the top of their lungs in public? As you tap into more of your creativity and artistic nature you are also more inclined to feel more vulnerable and sensitive. So how can you paint a prettier picture for yourself when things are really uncomfortable? How can you not lose our marbles and feel really bad, maybe even for days, after the said blow out? 

Here's 5 tips on how you can stand your ground and stay centered in a challenging situation;   

1.) Breathe consciously, counting how long you can make your inhales and how full you can release your exhales gives your brain something else to focus on. This is especially helpful if all your brain wants to do is react in an inappropriate way to the challenge at hand.
2.) Focus on the other person. Put all of your attention on the other person and make as many silent observations as possible. There's no judgement in this exercise. Just notice what are they wearing, what color is their hair, what are their hands doing etc. and then you can take it a step further and detect what is their behavior telling you? Making theses simple and specific observations is the first step into compassion. Having compassion can be a very helpful tool for you to stand your ground without getting swept away into stressful situation and it also has a positive side effect - understanding.
3.) Listen to what is being said. Let go of what you want to say in order to really listen aggressively to the other persons perspective.
4.) Don't take it personally. Nine times out of ten when someone is exploding it has nothing to do with you. They are reacting to an event that has already happened so don't take it personally because it's probably not even about you.
5.) Imagine yourself in the most peaceful place, a serene beach for example, then paint yourself the blissful picture in your minds eye and quietly ask yourself, how can I grow from this? What is the opportunity for learning here and what positive choice can I make to create the reality I want? 

We hope theses tips can be of help. Namaste.

Posted on April 15, 2014 .